The writing
Essays and musings on belief, identity, spirituality, sex, healing and whatever else I'm currently pulling apart.
27 August 2026
Are you actually doing anything, or just working on yourself?
I spent five years working on myself so I could finally do the fucking thing. Turns out, working on myself wasn't the same as actually doing it.
Read on Substack18 August 2026
When loving someone taught me the difference between hope and reality.
One part of me was saying: "I accept that he is married." And then another voice grew as my feelings did. "For now." They now lived side by side.
Read on Substack15 August 2026
Why wanting to be dominated is not the same as wanting to serve.
The quickest way to lose my interest as a submissive is to introduce yourself by telling me everything you want me to do to you.
Read on Substack11 August 2026
How being good taught me obedience, and being bad taught me choice.
The earliest memories I have as a child are of being curled up on a yellow lambswool rug, tucked neatly in front of plain-coloured kitten heels and shiny black lace-up dress shoes.
Read on Substack8 August 2026
The night that changed my life more than I knew.
"I want you to read this and, if you can, do what it says." He handed me his phone, the typed message illuminating the dimly lit bedroom.
Read on Substack7 August 2026
How authority trains us to confuse confidence with wisdom.
"Because Dad is older, he knows more than me." The words made me shudder when I heard them come out of my eleven-year-old's mouth while we were driving home from school.
Read on Substack4 August 2026
What becomes possible when we stop treating every interpretation as fact.
Lately, I have been challenging what I think I know in so many ways. This began with identity, morphed into beliefs, and is now getting really real about mind stories.
Read on Substack3 August 2026
Understanding the disconnection beneath porn addiction, from both sides of the relationship.
Access to technology has given us so many opportunities for quick fixes. But for many people, it has also provided direct access to dopamine rushes and the creation of fantasy.
Read on Substack1 August 2026
How insight became another way to avoid doing the fucking thing.
Like many people after the upheaval and uncertainty of 2020, I turned to spirituality to give me the answers I was desperately seeking. Unlike many others, the day I found out my workplace was closing for lockdown was also the day I found out I had cancer.
Read on Substack28 July 2026
When healing language teaches us to deny harm.
"I'm sorry that happened to you." I remember so vividly when a friend spoke these words to me in early 2022.
Read on Substack27 July 2026
How spirituality can become the safest place to hide.
In 2020, I had what I refer to as a near-death experience. After becoming conscious during surgery, yet unable to move, speak or breathe, I panicked and then gave up.
Read on Substack25 July 2026
The child who lost his father when the world gained the Buddha.
A fictionalised parable inspired by the traditional story of Rāhula, the son of Siddhartha Gautama.
Read on Substack24 July 2026
Can something so wrong still lead us somewhere right?
"Can you forgive me?" "What for?" "For being married." I looked down at the message glowing on my screen.
Read on Substack22 July 2026
Information or imagination: a parable.
There was a group of small handmade huts in a tiny village on a vast, abundant land. One of the Elders walked through the village as the villagers busied themselves with this and that.
Read on Substack17 July 2026
How the stories we create can distort reality, shape the body, and close us off from connection.
Profound growth occurs when we begin to take ownership of our lived experience. Part of that is learning to trust what arises within us, while recognising that what we receive is still an interpretation.
Read on Substack15 July 2026
What happens when a people pleaser finally speaks the truth and then blames themselves for the fallout.
The first person my sister married was a woman. We were all brought up in a church that taught that any type of same-sex relationship was a form of sin.
Read on Substack13 July 2026
Grief needs presence, not a silver lining.
Sitting at the computer, I can feel so many emotions rising. An old, familiar voice pops up. Look on the bright side. Immediately, I begin to doubt everything I'm feeling.
Read on Substack12 July 2026
Love may not be something we simply feel. Love may be something our brains learn to predict.
It's widely known that the experience of love consists of physical sensations. Our response to these sensations can differ dramatically depending on how our brains have been wired through experience.
Read on Substack17 May 2026
"Jodi, I have a really bad feeling about this. Please don't go." "Oh my God Danielle, I'll be fine." I shrugged, laughing at my sister's paranoia.
Read on Substack16 May 2026
I guess the hardest part about being faced with the realisation that you are going to die is wondering if you've ever really lived.
Read on SubstackI don't have a newsletter or a schedule. If there's something new worth sharing, I'll write.